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Stepkids Making You Nuts? Talk To Your Partner! *PODCAST*

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The number one reason second marriages fail is because of issues with stepkids. And here’s why: Divorced parents have a very intense mission to have their kids remain connected to them by whatever means possible. Throw in some guilt about the divorce and the destruction of the family unit, and you’ve got a blue-ribbon recipe for parenting — and stepparenting — disaster.

No one said getting remarried or blending families was going to be easy. Sure, there are some who appear to do it seamlessly — but the vast majority struggle with making it work. Don’t despair — and be ready to have some heavy duty conversations about the changes that must be made. Your silence is your enemy — because silence breeds resentment and resentment breeds intolerance. You don’t want to get to the point where your resentment and intolerance cause you to leave the marriage.

So, here are some common issues with stepparenting and what you can do — as a stepparent — to alleviate the tension and reclaim your sanity. The only way to make step parenting work is for you and your partner to be able to discuss what’s going on openly and honestly.

Join me as I offer the script for six crucial conversations you need to have with your partner about stepparenting.

 

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The 5 Things You Need To Do When Your Spouse Is Talking Divorce…And You’re Freaking Out About It *PODCAST*

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When a partner starts making noises about wanting a divorce, our first reaction is panic! We go into the mode of, “We must, at all costs, save this marriage!”  And knee-jerk reactions like that — in any capacity — are never useful. This is a moment in time when you want to be as honest with yourself as you’ve ever been. And it’s not an easy task.

You probably never imagined you’d be in this place. No one gets married with an eye toward divorce and most folks think it will never happen to them. If you’re the partner who wants to hold the marriage together, it’s likely you’re spending a lot of time trying to convince your spouse that divorce would be a huge mistake.

In case you don’t already know, most failing marriages follow this paradigm: one wants to stay in and one wants to leave. Do folks ever agree that divorce is the best idea? Sure. But it’s pretty rare. If you’re the one trying to save the marriage, this is a lonely and confusing time. 

Join me as I talk about the critical five points you must focus on when your spouse is talking divorce…and you’re freaking out about it.

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Can Your Midlife Marriage Go The Distance? And What To Do If You Think It Can’t! *PODCAST*

Marriage — especially in midlife — is often more complicated than we anticipate. And making the decision to stay in or leave your marriage can be difficult and crazy-making at best.

Do you spend a lot of time wondering where your marriage is going? Do you want to improve your relationship but not sure if it’s possible?

Are you feeling alone in figuring out what’s next?  Psychotherapist and bestselling author Abby Rodman will answer these questions and guide you to a better understanding of your midlife marriage — and where you can take it from here.

 

 

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Do This One Thing To Heal Your Marriage After An Affair *PODCAST*

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As a psychotherapist and couples counselor, I’ve been asked countless times whether it’s really and truly possible to move beyond the betrayal of an affair. And there’s no definitive answer. Do couples do it? Absolutely. Is it straightforward and simple? Absolutely not. And sometimes people who really, really want to move forward find they can’t — and other times, people who swear they can’t stay in a relationship after an affair find a way to do so. 

Once you realize you can’t change or reverse this event, you must figure out a way to move beyond it in a healthy, self-loving way. This doesn’t negate any anger or bitterness you may be feeling — but you accept, that in order to move on, you cannot give in to those feelings and allow them to become your emotional baseline.

Here’s the reality: You have work to do. This podcast will help you make your best and wisest decisions, as you focus on and learn what you need as you embark on the journey of moving beyond your partner’s affair.