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10 Things I Want For My Sons This Holiday That Aren't Wrapped Up With A Bow

Life is going to hand you some lemons. That’s true for you and for everyone else in the world. But it’s how you forge through those hard times that will set the tone for how you live. Be a survivor. Be a thriver. Know that sometimes not getting what you think you want is for the best.
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9 Ways To Enjoy The Holidays When Your Relationship Isn't Jolly

Listen, most folks don’t live in the land of perfect snow-dustings and moist turkeys, so don’t get hung up on what you see on TV or whatever holiday perfection your neighbor is presenting. Right now your goal is to get through the holidays without slumping over in despair and heartache. So, let’s start there.
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Give Yourself This One Life-Changing Gift For The Holidays

Holidays. Oh, the love/hate relationship we have with the holidays! The twinkly white lights, get-togethers, and the smell of fresh pine in our homes — all joyous. But there's also the pressure to be happy, to give the right gifts, and to…
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I Almost Didn't Remarry Because Of This One Thing

We haven’t married and that’s on me. I’ve dragged my cold feet for years and, although there are some pragmatic reasons for that, the number one reason is this: I can’t bear the thought of getting divorced again.
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Stop! Don't Sign Those Divorce Papers Until You Do This One Crucial Thing

A fair financial arrangement is the first step toward an amicable post-divorce relationship with your ex. And that amicable relationship will be pretty unlikely if you spend the next two decades fuming because you feel screwed over in your divorce.
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7 Ways to Be the Superhero of Your Divorce

How do you want to remember your behaviors during this difficult time? How do you want your children, friends, and family to remember how you managed this transition? Feel all the feelings but manage them appropriately. Maintain your dignity and your self-respect. Save yourself and those you love from future embarrassment and pain. Because that’s what superheroes do.
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Divorce Doesn't Go Away and 9 Other Pointers Every Divorced Person Needs You To Know

Don't say you know what they're going through. Because if you haven't gone through it, you don't. Divorce is a loss that shakes up one's life on every conceivable level. And there are far and few other circumstances you can say the same about.
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What's Good About Bad Parenting

Laying a carpet of cotton balls at the feet of our children will not serve them well. Wouldn’t it be better if we let their childhoods unfold without guiding, directing and interfering at every turn? Our knee jerk response is to jump in, to soothe, to manage. Of course, we want them to be happy and successful. But where do we draw the line?
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Dating Deja Vu: How to Stop Falling For the Same Type Over and Over

If this applies to you -- as it does to so many -- check out this great article by Heidi Stevens for the Chicago Tribune!  Albert Einstein, as legend would have it, said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again…
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Enough With the Drama: 10 Ways to Teach Your Kids to Rise Above

As parents, we have the responsibility to model resilience for our kids. To teach them to manage disappointment. To show them that not every slight is life-altering -- and that a medical diagnosis and not making the varsity team don't deserve the same emotional response.
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8 Truths to Consider When Your Partner Doesn't Want Kids

But what if you're in a serious relationship -- perhaps thinking about marriage -- and your partner is no-room-for-negotiation sure that s/he never wants children? Perhaps you've been on the procreation fence yourself. Or maybe you've always assumed you'd have kids but now this wonderful person -- whom you'd really, really like to spend your life with -- is making you think twice.
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Your Relationship Won't Stand a Chance Without This

Availability in a relationship can take many forms. When you think about having a partner who's available, you think of someone who's there for you. When push comes to shove, you're this person's priority. So no matter how great this person might be in some regards, it's often the quality of availability that makes or breaks a meaningful and fulfilling union.